Ciri2 Bakal Suami Dunia Akhirat ;)

assalamualaikum and happy greetings! ;)

kebelakangan ni, banyak gila kes2 pnderaan kan? physically, or mentally towards women and children. paling x tahan dengar, kisah penderaan rumah tangga. hmmm.. kadang2 terfikir jgk, apa pasal laa bini2 tu xpilih calon suami yang baik2? then it comes across my mind : LOVE. it blinds them. okay, apa2 pun jom kita checkout ciri2 yang patut ada dlm diri seorang lelaki yang anda boleh jadikan teman hidup.

1. lelaki yang ada pegangan agama.
rasanya ciri2 ni yg paling basic sekali yang seorang pompuan patut tgk.. suami (ooppss...! bakal suami) yang ada pegangan agama ni secara totalnya boleh jadi seorang ketua keluarga dan pemimpin yang baik seperti yang diidam2kan para wanita.. tapi beringat laa jgk, kalau suami anda keluar berdakwah setahun balik seminggu, itu bkn lagi pengorbanan namanya. itu mengambil kesempatan atas nama Islam. tanggungjawab suami harus dilunaskan pada keluarganya terlebih dahulu sebelum berjihad kerana sebaik2 jihad yang dilakukan oleh seorang suami ialah terhadap keluarganya dahulu.kalau si suami keluar berdakwah dan meninggalkan anak2 seramai 15 org utk bininya, itu penyeksaan.

2.lelaki yg bersifat melindungi
bygkan masa anda dlm kesusahan dan si dia datang membantu, ohh sangat romantik! mcm filem pulak.. ;D lelaki yang bersifat melindungi ni bukan sahaja akan mlindungi si perempuan daripada sebarang benttuk ancaman luar (external environment) dan ancaman "dalaman" yakni dirinya sendiri. seriously, lelaki yang keep on suruh gf dia bpakaian sebaik mungkin (faham2 ikut cara sendiri) adalah sangat..ahhh... cair ok..! haha.. tringat masa visit satu blog ni, si penulis (lelaki) yang akan kahwin dgn tunang dia mnceritakan betapa exitednya beliau sbb bakal kahwin dgn pujaan hati. ayat yang mmbuatkan aku terfikir "oh, specialnya pompuan ni" ialah

"sumpah aku exited gila nak kawinn! aku nak tgk mcm mana muka dia kalau xpakai tudung! ya Allah, tolonglahh dia ada RAMBUTT...!"

haha..comel gila...Sah2 laa kalau xda pnyakit apa2 insya Allah tunang dia ada RAMBUT.

3. lelaki yang penyabar dan penyayang.
kalau pada peringkat awat perhubungan anda dengan si dia, dan dia sudah menunjukkan sifat2 marah dendam yang berapi2 laksana gunung merapi, maka sila jangan kawin dengan dia. bahaya! silap2 kemaluan anda boleh ditores hanya sbb dia marah sangat. atau, anda kena simbah dengan asid getah ke, apa2 jela yang kimia mimia nii kan..xpun, anda boleh terus dibelasah dan akhirnya smpai ke bilik mayat. innalillah.. lagi dramatik, sila mintak bantuan jennifer love hewitt (ghost whisperer)utk tlg cakap kat suami anda. -apa laa aku mrepek nih..
seriously lelaki yang nampak sifat2 sayangkan kanak2 ni hensem! haha.. para lelaki, sila syg kanak2.. kami(perempuan) suka, sbb lmbat laun lelaki2 akan bertukar jadik bapak2.. kalau sekarang pacar anda xboleh tahan bunyi budak2 kecik, dan jodoh anda adalah dengan beliau, sila jangan beranak. haha.. nanti anak anda kena simpan dalam stor kat blakang umah, sebelah rumah kucing.. jangan3..ok?

4. lelaki yang bertanggungjawab.
suami harus bertanggungjawab zahir dan batin. kalau ckp benda ni ja, confirm yang terbayang ialah "batin" fizikal. haha.. xcaya? sila tanya kawan2 lelaki anda. kalu dia xmngaku, dia malu jee tu..malu tu, perisai orang beriman! ;D tanggungjawab batin suami bukan terhadap batin fizikal semata2 ye..batin tu termasuk laa dengan perasaan kasih sayang terhadap isteri, membuatkan isteri merasa disayangi di samping suami.so, rajin2laa tolong bini buat keja rumah.. kiteorang nanti nak ada kerjaya, bukan utk tolong orang lain, tolong awak jugak wahai bakal2 suami. kalau masa becinta lagi dah tunjuk aksi2 pemalas tahap baloq liat, sila jangan kawen dengan beliau.. haha..
tanggungjwab zahir termasuk menyediakan apa yang patut lah, utk si isteri. sebenarnya bila ditengok balik, kawin ni best! tapi disebabkan xmau mama kata aku gatai nak kawen, buat sementara waktu ni biar aku kata kawen ni "xbest" dulu. haha.

5.lelaki yang bersedia utk perubahan demi kebaikan.
yang ni, macam berat sikit la. paling senang, 'contoh example macam' bila someone ni minum nescafe dua kali sehari, nak tukar habit jadik dua hari sekali. susah oo... ;D bila seorang lelaki bersedia untuk berubah demi kebaikan bersama, itulah lelaki yang terbaik untuk seseorang wanita. seorang lelaki akan bersedia utk mngubah cara hidup, contohnya kerja lagi rajin utk keperluan isteri dan anak2, dari xpernah tolong kerja2 rumah kepada sikap ringan tulang.. itulah suami yang terbaik dunia, insya Allah akhirat nanti.

pesanan untuk gadis2 yang punya buah hati di luar sana, (termasuk diri sendiri), kalau pernah "terroverr" atau "tersilap langkah" bersama beliau dan anda sedar akn kesalahan anda, cuba bawa berbincang dengan dia. kalau dia xsuka dengan keputusan anda, sila blah cepat2 sebelum anda mengeluarkan seorang manusia di dalam tandas seorang diri. kalau dia bersedia untuk berubah, sila kawen dengan dia. perbuatan salah terdorong daripada hawa nafsu, and its never too late to repent as long as it's before your death atau masa tibanya Hari Pengadilan kelak.

ada seorang pernah bercerita, masa beliau ke kursus kahwin sebelum kahwin dulu, bliau terkejut apabila mendapati bahawa;

"kerja2 rumah seperti lap cermin, kemas2 rumah, vacum lantai dsb sebenarnya adalah kerja SUAMI."

haha..sumpah aku suka.. manakala;

"tugas isteri pula hanya mnecantikkan diri di hadapan suami dan mentaati suruhan suami. bagaimanapun, adalah DIGALAKKAN agar para isteri MENOLONG suami melakukan kerja2 tersebut."

"melakukan kerja2 rumah adalah adat agar para isteri melakukannya, tapi dalam Islam, kerja rumah ialah tanggungjawab suami.."

hahahahaha..

mungkin lepas pergi kursus kawen nanti akan ada ramai lelaki yang wish dia ada vagina kot.;p dan benda ni "made sense" bila aku fikir phrase "tanggungjawab lelaki ni berat".

apa2pun, kedua2 pihak kena main peranan. xsalah ikut adat asalkan xbertentangan dengan syarak. bagi air sejuk kat suami pun ada pahala. sapa nak bagi anda anugerah sikit punya tingi tu kpd wanita kalau bukan DIA? jom kita ambik peluang ni (nanti).;D
apa2 pun, skrg kita jaga diri kita, siblings and parents kita dulu, right?

i just hope one day, dia yang menjadi suami utk aku akn melihat aku dengan rasa ketenangan di dadanya. isteri yang perfect utk suami ialah apabila suami melihatnya dalam keadaan baik (bertelekung), akan wujud rasa kelapangan dalam dirinya. dan bila dia mngucup ubun2 aku sesudah solat berjemaah, akan timbul rasa syukur dalam hatinya. dan rasa itu, insya Allah akn membuatkan dia semakin bersemanagt nak semayang! bukan senang nak buat tu, kalau anda bukan isterinya yang sah. semoga kita bakal memperolehi jodoh yang baik2..amiinn... (bila aku nak kawen niii?)

*maybe sebab aku nak masok 20thn, tu yang jadik gini kot? haha :D

Assalamualaikum and happy greetings! ;)

well, just now i read (terbaca sebenarnya) on a friend of mine's status. it sound something like this :

"susahnya nak cari perempuan MELAYU skrg nie".

sorry bro, but actualy it's kind of funny and i kinda laugh. hahahaha :D (nak marah sikit boleh? *gnti pkataan maki hamun, takot nnti dikata xmelayu pulak)

before i let my 'anger' out, 1st of all i'd like to refresh about "perempuan Melayu".

back on those older days, the Malay ladies are full with gentleness, polite, soft, filled with culture and of course, customs.

they can't sing while cooking (Malay ladies), because they're afraid of getting an old husband.
they are taught to respect the elders, and most importantly, themselves.

okay, i'm just not going to mumble about 1h4w you respect yourself. back to the friend's statement about finding a Malay lady nowadays is said to be hard. well i'll give him my opinions.

"looking for a Malay MAN nowadays are too, hard"

Malay men, back on those years are taught to respect women. no matter how old she is.

so, back on what actually i am mad about,

boys these days, im not sure if they are fit enough to own a perfect, truly ever Malay girl (ala2 prempuan mlayu terakhir tu) because they don't even respect women.

kalau anda pernah menonton pornografi, xkira gambar, majalah, vdeo dsb, tnyalah kpd dri anda sndri, layakkah anda mmiliki seorang gadis yg benar2 Melayu mcm zmn dulu2 sbb anda sndri pun tidak mghormati wanita sperti lelaki Melayu dulu2.

these days, girls are for sex, money, victims -self satisfaction.

mereka adalah simbol seks di mata anda wahai lelaki bermata biru.

im not going to type more,
but do ask yourself,

layakkah anda memiliki seorang prempuan Melayu ?

cukup 'lelakikah' anda utk itu?

Complete each other's emptiness, lovers!

Assalamualaikum w.b.t

Hello and happy greetings from me! ;))

Well, i'm kinda inspired by the picture actually. ;) they looked both happy and enjoying their precious moments. Talking about love, huh? Kind of subjective topic but i'm gonna put you into my views.

I've seen my friends, many of them, meet, date, love, conflicts, fights and hush, clash. And of course, mine as well.


I might looked quiet all the time (almost) especially when i'm around campus. But actually, im observing. I watched how people (specifications towards teenagers) fall in love, and how love drag themselves down.

Love should bring peace amongst people. But love, somehow is dangerous.

I saw some important elements: trust,
responsibilities, understanding and patience. Of course there's more, but these are the things that i had in mind as "things u should consider about".

Easier to say than being done. Most of these fine couples met the end because they're lack of them. In the beginning, you thought the he's/she's the one for u, perfect, undeniable, your soul mate.

A man and a woman are made to complete each other. A guy should complete a lady's life, and a girl should complete a boy's life. Yes, COMPLETE.

How to complete your soul mate? It is by ACCEPTING his/her WEAKNESSES.

TRUST your lover, and try to UNDERSTAND.

It's harder to read a girl's mind rather than to read the boy's. A girl's mind is full of complexity, perfection, care, loves.. It often got easily 'dried up' and her partner needs to put more attention toward it (I don't know if the girls' minds got dried up easily because they cried a lot). The theory is like a pot with flowers. Once you got the flowers, you need to take care of it, by feeding it. You water it. Well, girls are not flowers. They're human. So, how?

Simple: ATTENTION

Like flowers, you don't water them too much. You don't water them only once a week. They'll suffer. They'll die slowly, and you do not know. Because they won't speak. Until one morning you woke up and found the flowers dead.

As for girl, you don't give too much attention to her. Not to make her feel like she's under your control. Remember, even if she's your girlfriend, you do not have any rights on her. Yet.

Feed her with your attention. Not too much, and don't lack. Because your girl won't speak. And one day, their heart died and only by then you realized that you had lost something that you had never taken care of preciously.

*i somehow believe this should be done to boys too.

If you think that he/she is your soul mate, accept them for what they are. Two souls are the key and the lock. You complete the incomplete part of him/her.

Understand each other. Like, tell him if you are not in a good mood (girls always had the swaying moods). Tell her if you don't like the way she treats you (not over the limit, of course).

Discuss. Many had misunderstood between "discuss" and "complains".
Discuss involves two parties and complains means only one party gains the power and the other is the "victim".

Trust each other. Have some sort of "being responsible to each other" in mind. Be realistic.

Most important, BE ADULTS. Use your given brain to think. Use your heart to feel, to sense the most beautiful, and the most ridicule things about your partner. Seek for their weaknesses, read the mind, language, terms used.


You wanted him/her. So make the best out of it. Always remember who you are. Religion thoughts and culture beliefs.

Create better relationship with them. You're the one who chose them. Try out all sort of efforts to make it works.

;) B, lets grow older and gray together. Love u. ;)

"I'll follow you and make a heaven out of hell, and I'll die by your hand which I love so well." -Willam Shakespeare.

an introduction of me. ;)

this is it. like, FINALLY i've my blog. ;))